I constantly woke to dreams of him and her in bed together. It would play over and over and over. I stopped feeling positive about myself and about life. It was all negative, jealous, enraged, diminished, bitter, frightened, lonely, ugly, mistrustful, exposed. His deception blinded me from how I saw myself. I started doubting and questioning everything about myself. I thought, ‘It must be me. I must have caused this affair to happen. I must change myself.’ I felt the fate of our marriage was in my hands. [End of letter]
Is that what you want? Is that the kind of stuff that you want to sign up for? As I’ve said, I’ve talked to hundreds of couples who have faced adultery. And every single person whose committed adultery has eventually come back to me and said this, are you ready? “Ed, I wish I could go back in time. I wish I could reverse the process.”
The process to promiscuity is painful and methodical. The process of having a true love affair with your spouse is also methodical, but it’s not painful. It’s awesome.
In John 8:44 Jesus is talking about the evil one. “He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.”
This process that I just described to you regarding how to have an affair is full of lies. Just lies. Half truths. Lies. Deception. And the evil one takes people down the same path, the same predictable path of promiscuity over and over and over and over and over again.
How To Have An Affair With Your Spouse
Well, let’s reverse the process, what do you say? Let’s take this process and reverse it. I want to talk to you now about how to have a love affair with your spouse.