Philippians 2:3 says, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others (consider your spouse) better than yourselves.”
So that’s something else we can do.
Respect, vulnerability, honor (admiration and affirmation): that’s all about marital fulfillment.
Then instead of stonewalling; instead of icing someone out, how about reconciliation? Here’s what happens. Let’s go back to John 10. Jesus said (paraphrased), “I am the door. If anyone enters through me, he or she will be saved, will go in and out and find pasture, will be saved, safe and satisfied.”
And because of Jesus we have the power and the ability to do these things and to walk through the door of marital fulfillment.
Here’s what happens when we walk through the door. 2 Corinthians 5:18-19. Check this out. “All of this is from God.”
Everything is from God. I’m not just making this stuff up. I mean, this is from God. This is what it means to be a full court follower of Christ, a full court husband or a full court wife.
“All this is from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to Himself in Christ, not counting men’s sins against them..”
That’s some good news right there. God does not count my sins against me.
[the verse continues] “And he has committed us to the message of reconciliation.” Isn’t that great to know that today?
Because I have been reconciled by God through Christ; because I’ve walked through the door; because Christ is in my life, as a Christ follower, I should rush to reconcile.
Any time Lisa and I have a relational sticking point; any time there’s an argument; any time there’s a problem; any time I’ve done something against her, as a believer, I should rush to reconcile because I’ve been greatly and perfectly reconciled by the person of Jesus Christ. Reconciliation.